Rape, Call-out Culture and Dangers of A Single False Narrative
In June 2020, the world was literally in black. As the world battled the COVID – 19 pandemic and a nationwide demonstration against the incessant killing of African-Americans by the police force, here in Nigeria, a media uproar erupted as information of a rape epidemic came to light. This resulted in a frenzy on social media, as a protest against the brutal gangrape of Uwa began. It was indeed a revealing and emotional period, as a lot of women came forward with their rape stories. Stories of sexual exploitation and the plight the Nigerian womenfolk had to contend with to be at par with their menfolk. Then boom! Stories started flying in.
First, a Nollywood director, Victor Okpala, was called out for demanding sex in exchange for a movie role. Then it was Uti Nwachukwu, Dbanj, to mention but a few celebrities. Social media wars began, to discern truths from fabrications. In the comments section underneath such stories, Twitter and Facebook saw a crowd of Nigerians bashing and condemning the accuser and the accused, without getting the authentic gist of the story. We call them the magistrate court of public opinion, where the parties are either sentenced or acquitted, without a judge or any form of evidence.
The culture of calling out has been active for a long time and used as a tool for the oppressed, the weak, the marginalized, and those without a voice, to reveal the injustice meted out on them, as well as to change the status quo. That was the original intent.
However, publicly accusing someone of rape, without valid evidence to back the claim, has consequences so grave, that even if an accused is proven innocent, there is no coming back from the damaging effects caused. No legal remedy can bring that back.
In the case of Uti, the accuser immediately vanished after he declared his intentions to engage his legal advisers. The trauma he would have faced would by far outweigh the legal fees or retribution he would receive, not to mention the damage to his career.
Izu Madubueze was not as lucky. He committed suicide when he could not deal with the trauma of the alleged ‘non physical sexual assault’ leveled against him by a Twitter user (@nanichianese) who deactivated her account after reports came out that Izu rejected her advances in the past.
There is a belief that call-outs of recent times have been used to stir trouble, rather than highlight the ills of injustice. A call-out on social media should only be justified, if the accusation is true and the accuser has laid complaints to the accused, while the accused refused to reasonably settle the issue.
In the case of a rape callout, there is a need to have a full understanding of the implications of the word rapist. Before the word is freely used on a human, either publicly or privately, the accuser must ponder upon it, just as a rapist ponders on his/her actions before raping someone.
How does one bounce back from the stigma attached to these vices (true or untrue)? Heritage Bank had to suspend all forms of business activity with Dbanj, just because he has been associated with the word ‘rape’, however untrue it may be.
While there are no right and wrong ways to promote a call-out culture, dissecting our true motivations and reasons before offering such criticism, as well as the consequences of such call out, helps the call-out culture fulfill its actual intent, because by ganging upon an individual, especially in public, you are taking a high moral position, and inciting the public to public shame the individual, which is usually counterproductive especially where there is no substantial evidence to back up such a claim.
In the case of a traumatizing experience such as rape, where dialoguing with the individual is far-fetched, calling out a rapist should be backed by a true story. This way, we can reduce the number of suicides, and horrific experiences that can be propagated by a single false narrative.
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70 Responses
A very timely and insightful write up.
A lot of education and reorientation on matters such as this is needed.
There has been a culture of silence around the issue of rape from time immemorial.
It’s time to take the mask off the masquerade.
Thanks dear
Well written Chiamaka. People are quick to crucify a rapist because of the devastating impact this act has on the victim. The fact that these cases always almost come out years later and therefore with little evidences has thrown us into a culture of blaming the victim by the mere words of the accuser.
Maybe some day, we will cultivate a culture where false accusations come with terrible consequences too and this may deter false accuser.
I agree with you that this would not be enough to eliminate or decrease the trauma the accused would go through but this is also the same for the victims in true rape cases.
However, maybe in the long run these consequences would encourage less people to use rape as a game or some form of revenge mechanism.
Until then, we can pray and try to be there for the falsely accused and real victims while we educate our people in the magistrate court of public opinion with articles like this; for they are here to stay.
From a solid writer! Thank you
To be honest, these days when I hear/read about someone being accused as a “rapist” I take it with a pinch of salt until the person is actually proven guilty. I have heard personal stories about how women gang up to destroy a man’s reputation all because he didn’t accept their advances. People do cruel things just to hurt others. I like how you wrote about it from another side – until actually proven, don’t judge.
The other side of the coin o the one that we are often too emotional to examine, well done for objectively exploring that!
You know how we are now. In being too quick to judge, we forget to analyze matters. Thanks sweetie
To be honest, these days when I hear/read about someone being accused as a “rapist” I take it with a pinch of salt until the person is actually proven guilty. I have heard personal stories about how women gang up to destroy a man’s reputation all because he didn’t accept their advances. People do cruel things just to hurt others. I like how you wrote about it from another side – until actually proven, don’t judge.
I see you nene! Thanks so much
This is apt and insightful, Chiamaka. You have hit the nail on the head. A false accusation is as good as murder. It’s quite painful when people think they can always get symphathy from some gullible social media users who do not take time to ponder on any case before passing the supposed culprit.
These are the one of the ills of social media. Everyone seems to have an opinion about everything. Thank you!
Thank you!
Very nice write up. So very appt. well done. I join in saying NO to RAPE!
No to rape!no to false accusations! Thank you!
Thank you!
Well said my darling.
Calling someone out on what ever platform must always be from the stand point of “TRUTH”.
Thanks so much maama😘😘😘
Nice write-up with subtle narrative.
Thank you so much!
I totally agree with you.Nice write up, welldone.
Thank you dear
A truth that needs to be heard.. well done Amaka.. very interesting piece.
I’m glad you liked it!
DinmaCaruso, you nailed it, it so disheartened to be tagged a ‘rapist’. No one wants to know if the allegations are true or not. Its a stigma, it should be totally curbed, the aftermath of the word ‘Rape’ should be thought over and over before the allegations are made.
The true ‘Rapist’ Might be out there unpunished, why the ‘audioRapist’ are stigmatised.
Nice write Up Dinma, so insightful of you
Thank you dear Akin!
Well captured dear
Thank you John dear!
Brilliant pcs! Couldn’t have been better put.
Thank you ma!
I must say this write-up is very apt considering the times we are in.
Thank you so much ma!
Very apt
Thank you!
Amazing piece.
I wish I assembled the entire world in a large hall and read this out to them.
Bless up dinmaCaruso
Thank you brother!
Thanks bro!
Wonderful. More sauce to your stew. 🤲🏿🙏🏿👍🏿
Thank you!
Nice write up Amaka. Didn’t know this side of you. Keep it up.
Thanks bro!
Well articulated
Thank you!
The truth we often like to ignore whilst we make ourselves judges over things we have no clear information about! Well done Chiamaka… A good read this is.
Thank you!
This piece right here is very insightful..welldone
Thank you!
Nice write up, timely.
Nice one
Thank you!
So true. Much needed at this time 👌
Thank you!
I say no to RAPE ! Let the rapist be castrated so that others will learn
Thank you!
Its high time the truth be told! Weldone Chi!!!
Thank you ma!
Thank you!
Insightful dear.
Thank you!
Thank you for this, Chiamaka. Well said.
Very insightful. Aptly written
I totally agree. Also why do some accusers end up dropping the charge?
This is so true. Kudos to the writer! Its unfair to accuse people falsely on a crime such as rape and then disappear. Thanks for this piece!
The punishment for false accusations should also be as grave as that of Rape.However ,I think it takes a lot of courage to speak up as a Victim of rape in this part of our world,so the accuser should be ready to defend his/her claims and not disappearing after causing an uproar…I stand strongly against Rape….
Quite captivating and educative
Lovely piece, this write up is so apt! I join in saying No to RAPE and all those that just want to tarnish people’s image.
Kudos to the author of this write up. It is quite apt and insightful. To be accused of rape is quite disheartening, especially where in the court of public opinion,the accused is adjudged guilty without a fair hearing.
That’s why the online court of public opinion should not be taken deeply. Thanks so much
Thank you Vivian!
Succinctly Put!
Thank you so much dear